OK – Once again I am starting this conversation off with – I do not claim to know everything, because I do not know everything. Everything I am writing is based off of my own experiences, so take what you like and throw out the window what you don’t. Never forget to formulate your own opinions.
This whole blog post came about because I told a client I’d send her some information on Spirit Guides, but I hadn’t found an article that said exactly what I wanted it to say; therefore, I am writing my own. (Probably my sign I should have just done that in the first place 😉 )
I’ve been told a lot of different things from the world of Mediumship. One book I read when I started this journey says each person has 7 guides, a teacher I had said you have may have one or multiple guides but they stay for good. And another teacher said some can pop in and out. Listen, with all that knowledge I continually felt like I wasn’t meeting my Spirit Guide correctly, because I only had one, and we’re best friends. So let me tell you our story, and what I’ve learned.
As you know, the universe has a sense of humor. It was 15 days before Halloween that I had the opening experience – as in, I accepted that I see Spirit and now it’s everywhere. When you hide from Spirit or don’t accept it, it never goes away, it’s still very much there. But chances are you block it, or suppress it, or tell it to go away. And Spirit listens. When I said, Ok. I know I am seeing Spirit, and I’m ready to figure out what it all means, it was a genuine awakening experience. Spirit was everywhere, in every square inch of the house. I felt like I couldn’t move. ** Disclaimer ** not everyone who opens up to spirit is going to experience this. I was called to the work of a Medium – as in a connector for Spirit. Every Spirit person who I’d come in contact with that wanted a message given was waiting for me to accept it. ** Anyways, so I was standing in my kitchen, after a night of feeling that way and all the sudden everyone was gone. I mean EVERYONE. The only thing I saw was this giant black robed floating thing with no face. Have you seen Harry Potter? My mind went immediately to a freakin’ Demontor.
I begged it to go away, I busted out my sage and my crystals. It didn’t leave. It was everywhere, in the backseat of my car, everywhere. BUT – I didn’t and wasn’t bombarded by spirit people. When I went to training with a Medium in Richmond, I was sitting in class. This is the first training I ever went too. Mid-way through class I just couldn’t handle the black no face thing staring at me. So I walked up to the teacher and said, how do I get rid of this thing with no face staring at me. She replied, “I think that’s your Spirit Guide.” If only you could have seen my face, I mean the terror.
When we came back from lunch, we had a meditation. When I got to the white after opening up, it was like Spirit was all over me, like I was in a crowd and I was Taylor Swift and everyone wanted to touch me. I couldn’t handle it, I tried to get out of it, and all the sudden here come scary no face black thing swooping in. He wrapped his cape around me and I resisted. I said please, go away. But then I realized, I feel warm, and safe. In that moment, I felt so protected. I stopped asking him to leave and I held on to him. I could feel his skeletal structure as if I was hugging a human. I didn’t understand it, but when I finally came out of the meditation, I burst into tears. The teacher said she saw what I saw and that was validation I was meant to do the work. **Spirit isn’t scary, but if you had a message for a loved one, wouldn’t you stick around and wait til the telephone line was working? That’s why as a Medium, it was a bit more intense 🙂 **
After that, it wasn’t all peaches and cream. He always appeared black and no faced, so I just said, Homeboy come here. I didn’t have a name, so homeboy just seemed like the best way to handle him. Yo, Homeboy, whatcha doin? Hah. But as we were building our relationship, he was doing really well about communicating with me in every other subject except getting to know him. He told me so many things, every single morning he would tell me what the first car color was that would pass me, he told me how many numbers would be in the license plate, he was so incredibly descriptive. From then on, we began a communicative relationship, and he’s been the one who tells me things I really need to know.
After that experience, the dreams picked up. As if I’d taken a break from dreaming and I was back at it. In every dream “Homeboy” was there, walking me through all my childhood experiences of seeing and talking with Spirit. I suppose I had suppressed them deeply, but when I dreamt them it felt like yesterday. I knew it was real, I remembered. A few of the dreams I had to call my mom and say, “Why did you say that?” There was a lot of moments looking back that my life could have taken a completely different turn, I’ll just say that. The evidence was there that people where trying to get messages to their loved ones even when I was only 3.
As Homeboy and I developed our relationship, it wasn’t until 3-4months of Cape Homeboy, did I see his face. He told me he wouldn’t take off this cape until I took off mine. Deep, right? Well, when I finally told people I was a Medium, and accepted myself, I saw his face. Everything about him was completely familiar. And I get why he didn’t show himself to me. I wasn’t gungho about the fact that he was a dude. I am kind of weird like that, the only male I wanted to be that close with emotionally was my future husband. But, I let go of that control.
Homeboy quickly became my receptionist to the Spirit world. He brought through every Spirit person I was meant to talk to. He answered all of my questions. He made me laugh when I wanted to cry, and he even helped me through physical world problems. He truly is just like me, its remarkable. The only difference is I’m not willing to try ‘cabbage soup’ and it’s apparently his fave.
I didn’t learn his name until 7 months into knowing him. After some time of breakdown and stress, I asked for some clarity on a situation that is still affecting my self-esteem as of today. When he showed me the answer, I said, How can I validate this? No one will tell me if it’s true or not. He told me to go to the computer. He said open google and search for the national archives. I did, he said now put in your favorite number, 33. Now put in Jack like your childhood teddy bear. And no lie. There he was, 33 freaking 33 all over the place. He died at age 33, in a battle where 33 Soldiers lost their lives, and he was number 33 on the page.
What I forgot to tell you about 33’s – ever since I was a child I looked for 33’s. Then when I was a little older, I would go to the third song on my CD player, or the 33 song on my iPod. I would ask for guidance and little hit the next button 33 times for the song that would help me. When I realized 33 was my connection to Homeboy – Mind = Blown.
So I do know Homeboy’s name, however, I still call him Homeboy. I prefer nicknames over super fancy formal names. Even my animals have 2 names. Ha, it’s just how I roll. Homeboy is in every element of what I do. If you guys have seen me work, you see me talking to him. He brings forward everyone for me, and really and truly is a huge part of my life. So that’s why I think Spirit Guide(s) are so vitally important to connection with Spirit. Homeboy says that everyone has a guide, everyone. So whether that’s great-great-great Grandpa or a Native American that has a bloodline .00087% connection to you, you still have one. Someone who has had some sort of agreement with you before you got here to watch over you and protect you and help you here and there.
Most of us has have had experience with our guides and we don’t even know it. Our guides are meant for us to connect with, and only us. Even if someone comes to me in a reading and asks what their guide says, or how they look, often I won’t want to give them information because that relationship is meant for them to build. However, if they need guidance and a starting point that’s different. Homeboy normally tells me what their guide says, I can’t talk directly to them. I don’t know why that is, but I’m ok with it. Homeboy can!
How to Connect:
Car Game: Ask your guide to let you know what color car will be the first car you see as you pull out of the driveway. Be specific, imagine where you want to see it. Because if you don’t you’ll be looking in the wrong place. I always say, Homeboy, what color will be the first car to pass me as I pull out on to ____ <– insert street name here. — It may take time. It’s like meeting a friend for the first time!! 🙂
Meditation: When you’re connected to Spirit through meditation, ask a loved one to bring forward your Guide. A loved one will normally be the person who introduces you because you TRUST them. Guides are unfamiliar in appearance, so you might get freaked out.
Have patience, and attend my class. Here’s the thing, just like my experience, you may not be able to RECONGIZE what is what. You can 100% connect on your own, but having someone to bounce your expereinces off of is very helpful. My next workshop is 11/07/15 – Register Here
So, hopefully this helps you have a story of a guide, and what that relationship is like. 🙂 If you have any questions, please let me know!