When people ask me what I do, and I reply, “I own my own business as a Psychic Medium”, there is a defining moment that shapes the conversation. It’s normally a silent moment, where the wheels start turning. You can normally tell that you’ve either just subconsciously put their walls up or you’ve significantly peaked their interest. In either scenario, the word “psychic” carries a stigma. Instantly they are thinking of a middle-aged woman, with a crystal ball, finding their lost earnings and telling the future. Some even take it as far as my head is about to tilt in 90 directions, volumes upon volumes of ectoplasm is going to begin floating out of my mouth, and all their unknown secrets will be brought to the surface. Hey, I get it , if I thought like that, I’d judge myself too! (and I did for years).
Listen – I don’t think many people grow up with the idea of, “When I grow up I want to talk to Dead People for a living.” I promise you, I wasn’t one of those people. I spent most of my teenage years believing I’d be a singer or work with horses, but deep down I knew that I had so much more going on. I was a genuinely longing to figure out what I was meant to be doing, because the truth of who I was still felt undiscovered. I remember being at breaking point when I finally realized, I wasn’t crazy. I was a Medium.
When two and two were finally put together for me, I lived in a state of, well let’s just call it ‘shock’. I was much too focused on the disbelief because something I had thought might-maybe-sortof-ifibelieve it was there. I guess you could call me stubborn, or exceptionally aloof. I didn’t want to step up and take that role. I didn’t want to have the conversation with my parents. I had fears of being my true self, I had fears of calling myself a Medium. I had the same reaction about myself, that most people have about me now. Except I took it further, I thought I’d no longer be a child of God, my parents would hate me, there’d be dead people all around me and I’d never shut it off, I’d be shunned from the community and burned at the stake – Ironic, considering I adored most Mediums I know, but thought the worst of doing it myself. I was also scared that once I said Yes to Spirit, my life would be a paranormal activity movie, and I didn’t want to get myself into any of that. And forget calling myself a Psychic. The first business card I ever printed said, “Evidential Spiritual Medium”. Left the whole psychic thing out. I didn’t want to own up to the fact that I can work psychicly. I can read thoughts, feel your emotions and tune into you, but I typically didn’t work in that modality, so why put it there?
I realize now, it all stemmed from fear that was planted long before I acknowledged or accepted my abilities. It WASN’T fear of those particular things, truthfully, because I knew in my heart that that wouldn’t happen, and wasn’t true. It was fear that I wasn’t good enough to accept the role, and heal people. That I didn’t deserve to talk to Spirit and communicate for them. Being a Psychic Medium, and allowing myself to truly accept and appreciate my abilities was the best thing I could have EVER done not just for me, but for the people that needed my help. I am SO grateful to channel for people, and to be able to talk to their loved ones. So Far – My head is screwed on just fine, haven’t seen anything come from my mouth to the sky, Jesus and I are tighter than ever, my parents still love me, my community has accepted my work (and the ones that don’t stay out of my path), and there ARE dead people all around me all the time – but I love them, and I have boundaries. I have been able to use my abilities to help heal people, and for that I am so grateful.
So if your scared to embrace your Spirit Loved ones, or scared to embrace your own gifts, I encourage you to ask why you’re really afraid and go deeper. Being my authentic self, and owning the way I work is the most freeing thing that I could have done, and I hope you chose to do it too. Here’s a few things I’ve come up with for someone in my shoes when I was starting out.
Understanding: Unfortunately, people have preconceived notions about Psychics, Mediums, Intuitive Healers, well Everyone. Understanding where they are coming from is what helped keep me calm and collected as they ask you questions. Not everyone will believe or understand, and that is OK. Just remember what was stated above. People do not have the knowledge about the practice Spirit communication or intuitive arts. Society hasn’t been talking about it until recently. I try to have compassion for their belief system and do my best to ease that with understanding of where they are coming from. In my opening speech during a live group reading, I always start out with “I commend you all for being here. For those of you that think my head is going to spin, my eyes are going to roll to the back of my head, and doors are going to start slamming, I am sorry to disappoint. What I’m doing here tonight is pretty normal. I’m just going to have a normal conversations with your deceased loved ones, like they were at the dinner table. Told you, Normal 🙂 .” I normally get a few laughs, and sighs of relief which also raises the vibration. I have found that bringing the fear to the forefront and facing it head on is the best way to deal with the uncomfortable feeling on both sides.
It is NOT Your Job to Convince People: I can’t emphasis this one enough. No matter what field you are in, it is NOT your job to convince people or change their belief system. I have to practice this daily with my own parents. They do not understand and do not want to understand what it is that I do. I have to respect where they are coming from, but still be myself. Do not push this on someone. I used to feel like I had to explain myself because I was so insecure, I begged for their validation. I’ll be honest, people I genuinely care about I still have a hard time with. If my heart is open to them, and I value and care about their opinions, I find myself wanting to justify what I am doing. I had to become very secure in who I was to not have that reaction. If I realized I’ve done that with someone, I normally go deeper and realize it’s is my genuine love for that person.
Just Be You: I know how I work. I know my way of channeling, connecting and tuning in. I know that not everyone wants to hear about it, or be involved in it. I am just me, take it or leave it. The people that want to be around me will, and the people that don’t want to be around me won’t. I know that when I first began telling people, I did lose a few friends over it all. I tried to keep them close, but It is hard to have a thriving business and a passion surrounded by people that put you down. I know that I can still love those people, but I don’t allow them to effect me. I stand strong in my belief, in Spirit, and the irrefutable proof that I am able to channel someone’s loved one and give them evidence that no one else could know. Doing the work is what helped me have faith. You’ll surprise yourself.
In summary, don’t be afraid to call it like it is. Be you, own it, and know that you’ll be accepted, loved, and appreciated by the people who count – and more importantly, by yourself. Don’t be the girl who choses not to put a vital piece of her work on her business card because of judgment. Stand out, be different, and make some history.